They buy into myths like:
✴ I don’t know what to do and it’s too hard to figure out.
✴ It’s too hard to change.
✴I’ll probably fail anyway.
I used to be like that. I used to believe in predestination and that whatever happened in my life was my lot and I just had to deal with it.
I didn’t make choices in my life. I just took whatever opportunities they came up. For so many years, I felt powerless and directionless and purposeless.
That’s not a great place to be. That’s a direct pathway into despair and depression.
I’ve spent the last 5 years delving into self development, mindset work and challenging my habitual, painful thoughts.
The most important thing I’ve learned is that my ‘weaknesses’ and ‘flaws’ aren’t weaknesses and flaws at all. These pain points are signposts to my pathway to success and development and achievement. The things that have given me the most heartache are where my true strengths lie, if only I am willing to pursue them wholeheartedly, without compromise.
The biggest problem is that we are conditioned to hide and be ashamed of the areas where we do not immediately excel. We berate and shame and punish ourselves for it. Any development in that area comes out of shame and inadequacy.
The biggest solution to that problem is starting to believe that we can learn to love the currently painful process or growth and progress. .
The further down this path I go, the more firmly I am convinced that the only way to make lasting change in your life is to love yourself through it. .
That’s a big statement, I know. I’ll be unpacking it in the coming days.